In this video, I have a riveting conversation with my friend from the Alliance for Therapeutic Choice & Scientific Integrity, Robert Vazzo, to discuss his specialty in treating clients with sexual fetishes. He provides his more comprehensive definition of a fetish, explaining its root in trauma. And I propose my idea that same-sex attraction/eroticization is itself a fetish. Please enjoy this enlightening discussion!
#fetishes #trauma #SSA #sexuality #SAFETherapy #sexualattraction #ReintegrativeTherapy #ImageTransformationTherapy #bodywork
I recorded this video on 6/25/25, the 10th anniversary of receiving the email that changed my life. I was four weeks away from finishing my year-long internship and graduating with my master's in counseling psychology. Then, the head of the internship program at Chestnut Hill College emailed me to stop my internship immediately because of my work with men coping with unwanted same-sex attraction. I've told my story in different venues before, including an article for the Journal of Human Sexuality, but here is the full story . . . with no censorship or redactions.
#Discrimination #TherapeuticChoice #SAFETherapy #SOCE #ReparativeTherapy #SexualIdentityTherapy #ChangeAllowingTherapy #SexualOrientation #Homosexuality #SSA #UnwantedSSA #GayActivism
Here's my recap and reflection on attending First Love Unbroken's inaugural Surrender conference, along with my presentation on Competent and Compassionate Counseling for Unwanted Same-Sex Attraction. (I'm sincerely sorry for going way past my time!) There were three events in three locations in southern NJ: the dinner at Lake Lenape, the conference at Stockton University, and all-day Christian hip hop concert and outreach at the Atlantic City boardwalk. I was excited to meet several people and make some new friends. Overall, this was a very encouraging time.
#FirstLoveUnbroken #SurrenderConference #SSA #UnwantedSSA #SexualityCounseling
As we're winding down May, Mental Health Awareness Month, I want to share some reflections on the temptation to romanticize the act of taking your own life. When we suffer immensely, suicide can easily be seen as the final way to assert control. But this act is not epic. Here are some thoughts inspired by the reactions to Richard "Beebo" Russell (AKA "Sky King" ), who stole an airplane to end his life in 2018. I tie in The Dead Poets Society, Twenty One Pilots, the male loneliness epidemic, and a very personal reason why I care about all this.
#SuicidePrevention #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #SkyKing #DeadPoetsSociety #TwentyOnePilots #maleloneliness #becauseyoumatter