Aside from arousal templates, another alternative to using the "sexual orientation" paradigm is identifying the attachment-based emotional longings that are prone to being eroticized. Whether you deal with same-sex attraction, disordered opposite-sex attraction, or lack much sexual arousal, it's important to know your core desires and deficits: attention, affection, attunement, acceptance, approval, affiliation, and admiration (the "A" words).
#Attachment #Eroticization #SexualizedEmotions #SexualOrientation #SSA #Fetishes #samesexattraction #asexuality #SexualDesire #SexualArousal
I've been noticing over the past few years this trend in my town of people leaving out their Halloween decorations way past October . . . particularly lawn skeletons. What is the symbolic meaning of this phenomenon? Here are my thoughts.
#LawnSkeletons #Nihilism #CultureofDeath #SexualRevolution #Cynicism #TheologyoftheBody
Here's an addendum to my story of discrimination in graduate school for offering counseling to people with unwanted same-sex attraction. What is my advice to students pursuing a career in the helping professions (psychology, counseling, marriage and family therapy, social work, etc.)? Seek and speak the truth no matter what. Here's why (featuring words from Jordan Peterson and M. Scott Peck).
#AdvicetoGradStudents #PsychologyStudents #SOCE #SAFETherapy #LGBTactivism #ConservativeTherapist #ScottPeck #JordanPeterson
I recorded this video on 6/25/25, the 10th anniversary of receiving the email that changed my life. I was four weeks away from finishing my year-long internship and graduating with my master's in counseling psychology. Then, the head of the internship program at Chestnut Hill College emailed me to stop my internship immediately because of my work with men coping with unwanted same-sex attraction. I've told my story in different venues before, including an article for the Journal of Human Sexuality, but here is the full story . . . with no censorship or redactions.
#Discrimination #TherapeuticChoice #SAFETherapy #SOCE #ReparativeTherapy #SexualIdentityTherapy #ChangeAllowingTherapy #SexualOrientation #Homosexuality #SSA #UnwantedSSA #GayActivism